You might be a master in your bedroom, but there is always scope for improvement. Want to add some oomph to your sex life? Here is our top 10 tips to having mind blowing, claw-clutching, earth-shattering sex!
1. Be fit
Being healthy is always good. However, remember that good health is interconnected to sexual health. Being physically fit means improved blood circulation. Experts opine that improved blood circulation makes sex more pleasurable as sexual arousal involves a sudden gush of blood flow to the genital area for both men and women, resulting in a surge in desire and passion. In addition, having a fit body will not just increase your energy levels but also uplift your mood. And having a toned body will always make you look and feel sexier!
Communication has always been the key to a good relationship. You may talk about everything under the sun with your partner, but when it comes to sex, you start walking on eggshells. Talk about your fantasies – keep it light and husky – don’t reveal fetishes that you are not sure about. Relax with glass of wine and keep your clothes on. Imagination is a must. Make sure you keep it sexy and see where it leads!
3. Connect with yourself
You have to be comfortable with yourself to feel in-charge. If you want mind-blowing sex, being self-confident is non-negotiable. If you lack in this department, schedule some time for yourself – try walking around naked when you are alone, tune into the sexiest number you like and jive to it. Pay attention to yourself and learn to love your body. This will boost your sexual self-confidence!
4. Do a strip tease
Go shop for some sexy lingerie and surprise him. Once he’s seen you in them, take them off seductively. You don’t have to be a professional, just confident. Do not allow him to touch you – this is sure to turn him on some more!
5. Warm up
It’s fun to be spontaneous, but not always. If you want a great sex life, don’t just dive into the act, indulge in foreplay. Just like stretching is important in a workout, foreplay is important for sex. You might grope and bite and kiss all the time, but have you tried a massage. Go ahead and create an atmosphere – turn on some sexy music, light a few scented candles and give each other a massage – head to toe. Trust us, throwing in a bit of titillation and stimulation is no harm at all. You will only end up having amazingly orgasmic sex!
6. Every day is special
A lot of couples complain that their sex life has become boring. Even psychologists and marriage counselors say that boredom in bedroom can lead to broken marriages. Don’t let this happen to you. What can be more exhilarating that experimenting – talk dirty, yes talk dirty – it’s fun sometimes. Try new positions – a lot of couples swear by the Kama Sutra which talks about hundreds of positions. It’s sure to keep you at the peak for months!
7. Cold touch
Have you tried the cold touch? Try ice cubes – you can create a sexual jolt by rubbing ice on your partner’s skin. The sensation is not exactly painful but it can be uncomfortable. However, it’s not something that your partner will complain about. Blow warm kisses as you move the ice from the spot. The hot and cold sensation can be mind-blowing!
8. Don’t be nervous
Some women are shy or nervous to ask for what they want during sex. Try talking about it in a different setting – like for example, when you are watching a sexy scene on television together. You could cuddle up to him and whisper “shall we try this tonight?” You will definitely receive the response you are hoping for!
9. Chuck the clock
Are you one of those who set their alarm clocks and have sex at exactly 10 pm? No wonder your sex life is a disaster! Don’t make it a bedtime ritual. Happy hours need not be only bedtime. It can be just before work, right after you get home from work and during weekends the possibilities are enormous – mid morning, mid-afternoon, before snack or after snack! You will so look forward to tearing off each other’s clothes that you are sure to go from once-a-week to every night!
10. Go nude!
If you are one of those who sleep with clothes covering you from tip to toe, it’s time for change! Take small steps – start with sleeping in a T-shirt and shorts in the beginning, then just the tee and so on. Once you get over the awkwardness, the feeling of having nothing on under the sheets is quite exciting and potent. Not to mention the hugs and touches which will lead to a long exhilarating night!
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